Apart from counselling and the positive diet I also used some other tools:-
1. Committing to reading out aloud my twice daily regimen 2. Writing down and reviewing notes from the Patricia Evans books I read 3. Consistently logging into MEVAC and journalling 4. Consistently supporting my fellow MEVACS by reading, learning, relating back to my situation and commenting in their journals 5. By creating and implementing the breaking of my VAC habit by having a "VAC-free month and journalling my progress every day" (by the way, I am still VAC-free as I have broken the habit!) 6. By being able to listen with true empathy, respect and acknowledgement of my VAC behaviour to my beautiful M when she has flashbacks of my behaviour 7. By discussing with M any VAC behaviour I see now and relate it back to what I did and apologising for my past behaviour and how it cost M so dearly.
These are some things I do off the top of my head - I hope they help someone with their reform.
As you can see, my reform can be broken down to two words - RESPONSIBILITY & COMMITMENT.
Hard work brings results. Half-hearted effort brings failure - that is my creed.
My reform has been totally vindicated by Kaye (VAC Therapist) who sees no reason at all to see me anymore!
I hope this helps
-Mack MEVAC men are Gentle, Stable, Humble, Loving, Caring, Compassionate, Empathetic, Strong in heart