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Post by agate on Oct 31, 2021 10:09:39 GMT -5
gregory66,
I just re-sent you another copy of the Welcome Letter that includes your Journal Access Instructions.
Peter Kelsey (Agate)
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Post by agate on Jun 29, 2016 12:31:22 GMT -5
Spartacus,
Welcome to MEVAC!
The registrations are currently being taken care of by me, usually in blocks of 4 or 5 registrations at a time, and attempting to have no one wait any longer than 4 or 5 days to be processed.
There are no professionals working within this support group.
Those that will attempt to help you are laymen, just like yourself.
The banner at the top of the homepage asks for your patience - that request is both sincerely and practically based.
Throughout this journey, it will not help you to attempt to leverage control by misrepresenting the facts, and although you have stated here you have been waiting
"several days", the board actually clocked your registration request at 1:53 AM yesterday, which means you have actually been waiting for about a day and a half.
I will be processing your registration when I get home from work this evening. Please look for my welcome email in approximately 12 hours from now.
Patience, empathy, humility. Those will be your 3 most helpful tools in this process. Patience may be the most valuable of all.
I look forward to hearing your story, with
Love and peace,
Agate
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Post by agate on Feb 20, 2015 15:36:43 GMT -5
Newbie,
I'm sorry, but if the username you would like to use has already been taken, you will have to come up with an alternative. And if you are not "properly" registered,
I will not be able to adjust your profile and get you started with all of the reading material available on the site.
If you have any additional questions or concerns, you are welcome to send me an e-mail directed to: agatemevac@gmail.com
I'll do everything I can to try and help you.
Agate
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Post by agate on Oct 9, 2009 16:32:18 GMT -5
Dear Fixitnow,
Welcome to Mevac! I am one of the members here, and I have been coming to this site for close to two months now.If you find that your leaving serves as a successful wake-up alarm to your abusive husband, the two of you will not be alone. In almost all cases, it takes the departure of the partner, or sometimes just the threat of that departure for him to get the message. That was definitely true for me. My wife filed for a divorce after 31 years of marriage, the last 21 of which were very difficult for her because of my abuse and control. She felt she needed to get away to stop the crazy behavior and to regain the sense of self she had lost in trying to counter and combat my irrational, controlling ways. I am working on myself to attempt to grow back into the man I should have been for myself, my wife, and my children. Even if we are no longer married or living as partners, life is going to be much better for all of us. It certainly would have been my dream to reconcile at some point , but I'm afraid the trauma for my wife over so many years has been too great to make that possible. If your husband is truly aware of the damage he's caused, and shows a genuine interest in trying to change his abusive and controlling behavior, if the two of you are able to talk about it, please suggest this site as a place he can come for support and help The men here are really good people with good hearts. We understand the damage we have caused, and we are working very hard to heal ourselves and our families. You are very strong and courageous to be taking the steps you are taking. If you feel you need additional help or support , please also consider visiting verbalabuse.com That is Patricia Evans' site where victims and survivors of verbal abuse can find validation and support.
I will be thinking of you and your family today, and hoping you will continue to be able to find the strength you will need to make the decisions that will allow you to heal and recover.
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