Post by Mack on Jan 4, 2011 6:51:32 GMT -5
I want to congratulate MEVAC members for their willingness to try and change from their being controlling and / or abusive in their relationships. I have been greatly impressed with how hard you are working on this and praying about it and admitting to it. That in itself, I feel is a miracle. That is all I wanted from my husband, first acknowledgement that he was controlling everything he could, and second that he was hurting me emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally! None of those happened and I grew older every year trying to hold on to hope and feeling my spirit die inside. I am so happy there is a place for men to discuss with other men things they did, thought, dreamed, desired, and couldn’t figure out! It is next to impossible for most men to be able to express that to us women. Something about ego and id and the differences with what men and women are made of! But I believe if a man desires to change and is young enough to want to be good to his wife and kids then there is hope.
In my case we got to old and my husband never thought anything was wrong with the way he treated me or anyone else. Forty years went by, because I was patient, forgiving and loving now I am in the process of healing, finding myself again, and wondering what life leads now at 60. I was 16 when we met and fell “in love”! Now I wished they knew about these “reality one and reality two’s” sooner. No counseling can work without this knowledge because the old style of everyone work harder…is impossible when the wife and kids are walking around on eggs shells already.
Keep up the good work guys and gain your families back…or start new ones with greater knowledge than you had before if your previous marriage and family is no longer together. But keep believing and keep working at it, that is what we are here in this life to do. We are not perfect…but we are expected to try and be “perfect as our Heavenly Father is perfect”…(and that is in Loving each other)
From a former MEVAC member and now continuing with verbalabuse.com’s
help and continuing to believe God has a greater plan for me and He will allow it to unfold for me in His perfect time as well. Blessings to you all!
In my case we got to old and my husband never thought anything was wrong with the way he treated me or anyone else. Forty years went by, because I was patient, forgiving and loving now I am in the process of healing, finding myself again, and wondering what life leads now at 60. I was 16 when we met and fell “in love”! Now I wished they knew about these “reality one and reality two’s” sooner. No counseling can work without this knowledge because the old style of everyone work harder…is impossible when the wife and kids are walking around on eggs shells already.
Keep up the good work guys and gain your families back…or start new ones with greater knowledge than you had before if your previous marriage and family is no longer together. But keep believing and keep working at it, that is what we are here in this life to do. We are not perfect…but we are expected to try and be “perfect as our Heavenly Father is perfect”…(and that is in Loving each other)
From a former MEVAC member and now continuing with verbalabuse.com’s
help and continuing to believe God has a greater plan for me and He will allow it to unfold for me in His perfect time as well. Blessings to you all!